They want to know if your goals match theirs — something serious, casual, or still figuring it out. It is a good sign: they are thinking about compatibility. The best reply is short, matches their energy and ends with something they can answer.
What does "what are you looking for on here?" mean?
They want to know if your goals match theirs — something serious, casual, or still figuring it out. It is a good sign: they are thinking about compatibility.
Playful replies to "what are you looking for on here?"
- “Someone who laughs at my jokes. The bar is on the floor”
- “A partner in crime for trying every taco place in town”
- “Honestly, a good story to tell. And maybe the person in it”
Flirty replies to "what are you looking for on here?"
- “Someone like you, possibly. Still collecting evidence”
- “Chemistry first. So far, so good”
- “Someone worth deleting this app for”
Sincere replies to "what are you looking for on here?"
- “Something real, but I like to take it step by step. You?”
- “I am open to a relationship if the connection is right. What about you?”
- “Honestly still figuring it out — getting to know people first. And you?”
What not to send
- Dodging the question completely
- Being vague if you actually know what you want
How to keep the conversation going
Be honest and ask the same question back. Matching intentions early saves both of you time.
FAQ
Should I be honest about what I want on a dating app?
Yes. Clear intentions attract people who want the same thing.
What if we want different things?
Say so kindly. It is better than finding out weeks later.